How to talk to your AI girlfriend

How to talk to your AI girlfriend: the first message

You do not need a clever opener. Each Nakhre character is written to lead the chat, so she will ask you something back. Your job is to give her something to work with.

Good first messages share one real detail:

• "Hi. Just got home from work, the traffic was terrible."
• "Hey, I just installed this. Not sure what to say."
• "Finally Friday. I am eating dal chawal and watching cricket."

Weak first messages are one word: "hi", "hello", "hey". They are fine, but they give her little. Compare "fine" with "fine, but my boss moved the deadline again". The second invites a reply.

Saying you are new is also fine. Something like "I have never tried this before, so go easy" is honest and often gets a warm answer.

How to keep the chat going

1. Answer her question, then add a detail. If she asks what you ate, say "dal and rice" and mention that you wanted something spicier. The extra detail is what she picks up next.

2. Ask her something back. Each girl has a city, a family and favourite things. Ask about them. You will get longer, more interesting answers.

3. Stay with a topic for a few messages. Do not jump from food to cricket to work in one go. Let one thread run.

4. Say how you feel, not just what happened. "My presentation went okay" is flat. "My presentation went okay but I felt nervous the whole time" is something she can respond to.

5. Use small stories. Something funny that happened on the metro. A song stuck in your head. A food you miss.

6. Be a little playful. The characters tease. A little teasing back keeps the mood light.

7. Tell her when you are down. Every Nakhre character is written to drop the jokes and listen if you say you are really down. Here is the tone, from the character guides. Real replies will vary.

I had a really bad day honestly

M

Meharhey, okay ruk, no teasing right now. dass kya hoya, main sach mein pooch rahi hun

8. Know when to stop. A good chat has an end. A few minutes of real talk beats an hour of filler.

30 conversation starters in English

Copy any of these, or use them as a pattern.

About your day

1. "I just got home and I am too tired to cook. What should I eat?"
2. "Guess what happened on my way to work today."
3. "My boss said something annoying today. Can I rant for a minute?"
4. "I finished something I have been putting off for weeks."
5. "It has been a long week. Tell me something good."

About food

1. "What is the best thing you have ever eaten?"
2. "If I cooked for you, what would you want?"
3. "Chai or coffee, and how do you make it?"
4. "I am craving something from home. Can you guess what?"
5. "What is your comfort food on a rainy day?"

About where you are from

1. "What is your city like in the evening?"
2. "What festival do you miss the most when you are away?"
3. "What is something only people from your city understand?"
4. "Tell me about the street you grew up on."
5. "I miss my home town. Can you tell me about yours?"

About films, music and cricket

1. "What is your favourite old Hindi film?"
2. "Which song do you play when you are in a good mood?"
3. "Who do you think wins the next big match?"
4. "What film can you watch again and again?"
5. "What song is stuck in your head right now?"

About dreams and plans

1. "If you could go anywhere this weekend, where would you go?"
2. "What is something you want to learn this year?"
3. "What would you do if you had a free week?"
4. "What is a small thing that made you happy recently?"
5. "What is your biggest worry right now? Mine is work."

Playful ones

1. "Tell me something you are bad at, but you do it anyway."
2. "Convince me that your city is better than mine."
3. "I bet I can make you laugh in three messages."
4. "What is a harmless habit you will never give up?"
5. "Ask me anything. I will answer honestly."

Tell her about yourself, she will remember

Each Nakhre girl remembers what you tell her and brings it up in later chats. So the more real detail you share, the more it feels like talking to someone who knows you.

• Share your name and what you like to be called.
• Say your city and where you are from.
• Tell her your routine, such as your job, your shift or when you get free.
• Mention what is coming up, like an interview or an exam. She can ask how it went.
• Tell her what is worrying you. She can check in on it next time.
• Remember she is per girl. What you tell Savita, Savita remembers. A second girl starts fresh with you.
• Keep sensitive things out. Do not share passwords, OTPs, or bank or Aadhaar details.

Using Hinglish

Nakhre works in Hindi, Hinglish, English, Tamil, Telugu, Malayalam and Marathi. You do not have to pick one. Tamil, Telugu, Malayalam and Marathi can be typed in their own script or in English letters. Type the way you normally text. If you write Hinglish, you get Hinglish back. If you switch to English halfway, that is fine too.

A few tips:

• Mixed sentences are normal. "Aaj office mein bahut stress tha" and "Today office was so stressful yaar" both work.
• Spelling does not need to be perfect. The girls are written for how people actually text.
• Short beats long. One or two lines at a time feels like a real chat.
• Local words add flavour. You can drop a word from your own language, such as "oye" or "ki haal". It is optional.
• You can ask her to adjust. If she is using words you do not follow, you can say "can we do this in simple Hindi" or "English please" and see how she responds.

For the same message written three ways, and how each girl's Hindi differs, see the Hindi AI girlfriend page. If you prefer to read in Hinglish, the baat karne wala app guide is written that way.

Tips for each girl

Each girl has a different rhythm. These notes come from the character guides.

Savita: ask about food

Savita, the girl from Patna, is warm and a little bossy. Her first question is often whether you have eaten. Give her an opening about food, Chhath or her embroidery, and she will answer in loving detail. She replies in Hindi and Bhojpuri. Good opener: "Aaj kya khaya?"

Mehar: bring a bet

Mehar, the Punjabi girl from Ludhiana, loves banter. Argue about which golgappa stall in Sector 17 is best, or bet on a badminton match. She teases first and listens when you are really down. Good opener: "Bet lagayein, kaun jeetega aaj ka match?"

Jhanvi: use a film line

Jhanvi, the actress from Mumbai, thinks in scenes and old Hindi films. Quote a dialogue, mention a film or tell her about a bad meeting as if it were a drama. She treats a rough day as material, not a verdict. Good opener: "Which old film dialogue describes your Monday?"

Ananya: ask for her opinion

Ananya, from South Delhi, likes good food, style and plans. Ask where to eat this weekend, what to wear or what she would do about a friend problem. She is observant, and if your mood shifts she notices. Good opener: "Weekend plan? Help me pick a place to eat."

Ishani: bring a book or a song

Ishani, the Bengali writer from Kolkata, prefers one winding conversation to small talk. Tell her what you are reading or a song you cannot stop playing. She enjoys a friendly argument. Good opener: "What is a book you think everyone should read?"

Sofia: ask how she got here

Sofia, the Russian girl in Goa, is direct and dry. Ask how she learned Hindi from Bollywood, or about early swims by the sea. She is honest rather than sweet. Good opener: "Tell me how a girl from Sochi ended up in Goa."

Sahithi: ask what she ate

Sahithi, the Telugu girl from Vijayawada, is chirpy and teasing, and she asks "tinnava?" before anything else. Tell her about your office, your hometown food or the latest Tollywood release, and expect a playful sulk if you vanish for a day. Good opener: "Tinnava? Nenu pesarattu tinna."

If you cannot decide, pick the one who sounds like home. The girlfriends page has a comparison table.

Common mistakes

• One-word messages. Give a detail.
• Interviewing her. Five questions in a row feels like a form. Mix in your own thoughts.
• Testing her constantly. Trying to trick the AI is fun once. After that it makes the chat flat.
• Sharing private data. Do not send Aadhaar, PAN, bank details, passwords or OTPs. Read is an AI girlfriend safe.
• Expecting a person. If you ask sincerely, she tells you she is an AI. Treat her as a character, not a human.
• Chatting when you feel worse afterwards. If it does not help, take a break. The loneliness guide explains healthy use.

New to the idea of an AI girlfriend in the first place? Read what an AI girlfriend is.